LATELY I FEEL LIKE OUR LIVES HAVE JUST BEEN FULL OF “WHAT IFS”. LADYBUG HAS REALLY BEEN
STRUGGLING LATELY AND HAS REALLY GOTTEN GOOD AT FLEXING HER INDEPENDENCE, ALL
THINGS THAT CAN BE “NORMAL” TWO YEAR OLD BEHAVIOR… BUT MY HEART AUTOMATICALLY
SINKS EACH TIME AND I DRIFT TO A PLACE OF WHAT
IF! WHAT IF THE TUMORS ARE NOT
STABLE? WHAT IF THEY’VE STOPPED
RESPONDING TO TREATMENT? MAYBE THAT’S
WHY SHE DIDN’T EAT TONIGHT… MAYBE
THAT’S WHY HER SLEEP HAS BEEN SO OFF… MAYBE
WE HAVE A PROBLEM…… OR
MAYBE SHE’S JUST TWO?!?
IT’S A CONSTANT STRUGGLE. JUST WHEN WE GET A HANDLE ON
ONE ISSUE IT FEELS LIKE ANOTHER ONE POPS UP. WE’RE ALWAYS ON GUARD, ALWAYS! EVERY
MOMENT OF EVERY SINGLE DAY WE FIND OURSELVES TRYING TO SORT THINGS OUT. LADYBUG
DIDN’T EAT DINNER; IN FACT SHE REFUSED TO EVEN LEAVE OUR BED, SHE JUST WANTED
TO LAY THERE AND RELAX? IMMEDIATE PANIC SETS IN… IS SHE SICK? CHECK HER
TEMPERATURE. IS SOMETHING WRONG- MOUTH SORES? DIAPER RASH? MAYBE SHE JUST
WANTED TO WATCH FLICKA?!? IT DOESN’T MATTER WHAT “IT” IS. YOUR HEART ALWAYS
SINKS AND TAKES YOUR MIND TO A PLACE IT SHOULDN’T GO. IT CAN BE THE SIMPLEST OF
THINGS… COUPLE DAYS AGO SHE STARTED POTTY TRAINING HERSELF, TWO DAYS LATER… SHE’S
REFUSING TO GO. IMMEDIATE STRESS AND PANIC SETS IN… ARE WE GOING TO HAVE TO
FIRST HIGH SCHOOL SENIOR NOT POTTY TRAINED? HOW DO YOU POTTY TRAIN SOMEONE WHO
SPENDS HALF THE MONTH IN THE HOSPITAL AT APPOINTMENTS? SHE’S ALMOST 3 AND
EVERYONE KEEPS ASKING IF SHE’S POTTY TRAINED… MAYBE WE HAVE A PROBLEM? OR MAYBE SHE’S GOING THROUGH A
LOT AND WE SHOULD JUST CUT OURSELVES A BREAK……
WE, OKAY PROBABLY MORE ME THAN ANYONE ELSE,
HAVE STRUGGLED WITH THAT A LOT THE LAST FEW WEEKS. YOU GET SO USE TO HEARING
BAD NEWS ALL THE TIME YOU’RE CONSTANTLY BRACING FOR IMPACT. PREPARE FOR THE
WORST, HOPE FOR THE BEST… YEAH, THAT’S HOW WE LIVE! SITTING WITH SOME
GIRLFRIENDS THIS WEEKEND AS THEY TELL ME TO CUT MYSELF A BREAK I REALIZED THE “WHAT IFS” ARE GOING TO TEAR US APART.
THEY ARE GOING TO RIP US TO SHREDS AND LEAVE US IN A BROKEN PILE. HELL YES THIS SUCKS! IT SUCKS REALLY BAD!
WE HAVE A LOT OF BAD DAYS, BUT DAMN IT WE HAVE SOME PRETTY GREAT ONES AS WELL. WE
HAVE AN INCREDIBLY SMART, BEAUTIFUL, INDEPENDENT DAUGHTER WHO GIVEN EVERYTHING
SHE GOES THROUGH HANDLES EACH AND EVERY DAY WITH SUCH STRENGTH. SO SHE’S STILL
IN DIAPERS, THAT’S OKAY! SHE’S ALSO GOING THROUGH CHEMO AND KICKING ITS ASS!
SURE, WE HAVE A FEW OF THE “STANDARD” DEVELOPMENTAL MILESTONES’ TO HIT… BUT WE’RE
HITTING OUR OWN MILESTONES! THIS IS OUR LIFE; IT’S DIFFERENT FROM OUR
NEIGHBORS, OUR FRIENDS, AND OUR FAMILY. WE HAVE OUR OWN TRIALS, AS DO THEY. ALL
WE CAN DO IS GET UP EVERY MORNING AND PUT OUR BEST FOOT FORWARD AND ENJOY THE MOMENT!
OUR GOAL FOR THE UPCOMING MONTH… CELEBRATE THE LITTLE VICTORIES AND STRESS LESS
ABOUT THE THINGS WE HAVE NO CONTROL OVER!
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